‘A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body, jealousy is like cancer in the bones.’ Proverbs 14:30 NLT
Jealousy starts as a seed. It’s the little, fleeting moment when we compare our abilities, appearance, or life-in-general with someone else’s (or with your whole Instagram feed’s…?). Chances are, when that happens, we probably don’t even recognise it to be the starting seed of jealousy. It’s such an insignificant thing, right?
Well, it might look that way. But stick it in a lovely rich fertiliser of our oh-so-human insecurities, and water it with a bit of a desire for self–improvement, and it starts to grow. That tiny seed becomes a green-eyed monster plant of jealousy. However, we have a couple of tips to root out the seed before it gets a chance to grow.
1. Contentment – Yeah, alright. We can’t just decide to be happy and just not get those jealous-twinges any more. But, go read Philippians 4:10-13. Paul chats about contentment, then says ‘I can do all this through Him who gives me strength’ (verse 13 NIV). Hmmm… probs worth asking for some Holy Spirit help there, then?
2. Community Mentality – Cheesy as it sounds, we’re all on the same team. Let’s call it Team Humanity. When someone else is winning at life, that doesn’t mean you lose. If we’re on the same side, someone else’s happiness should be able to make our side stronger. The cure here is to literally celebrate with them, get in touch, pop over, enjoy their good times with them.
Maybe the best discipline to learn to cure us of jealousy is learning to hold things lightly. Jealousy doesn’t have room to breathe when you choose to meet other people’s needs. So turn it outwards today. Give three things away in the next 12 hours.