‘Two people are better off than one.’ Ecclesiastes 4:9 NLT
Okay, maybe we’re risking getting a little primary school here, but we reckon it’s worth it. We don’t care how old we all are, the whole making friends thing is always relevant. It doesn’t really get any easier, does it? Whenever we hit a new stage in our life, we can find ourselves feeling that familiar ‘how do I friend?’ feeling. So here’s some practical tips.
First of all, try talking. Practice really does make perfect. Don’t worry about being witty and original – just try speaking. This will build your confidence as well as allowing others to see how great you are. Second, learn to listen. You don’t have to have a life or death story of ‘How I scaled Kilimanjaro without an inhaler’ for people to want to talk to you. Actually people generally love talking about themselves, so by listening you give them a chance to be centre stage. Thirdly, have the courage to be you. Don’t apologise for the lame bands you like or pretend to be the ‘life and soul...’ if you’re more happy with a quiet coffee and a chat. You’re fascinating the way you are. And finally, choose your friends. There will always be cliques and tribes who think everyone should know their place (yawn). But there will also be those not bothered about ‘who’s in’ and ‘who’s out.’ People who won’t judge you are going to make better friends anyway.
Thank God for the people around you. If you feel like there’s something missing for you, people-wise, ask God to fill that gap somehow. He put you together and He knows you need friendships, and what sort.