IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME
‘...be patient, bearing with one another in love.’ Ephesians 4:2 NIVWhen it comes to any of our ‘relationships’ with others (literally any friendships, siblings, colleagues you kind-of-don’t-want-to-but-kind-of-have-to be sat next to, marriage, parents), there’s a simple acid-test we should be checking. Ready? Here it is: ‘Am I going in the right direction?’ Nice sat-navving, W4U, but what does that mean for navigating a world populated with friends and strangers? Well, all your thoughts, plans and decisions are either heading in your direction, or away from yourself and to God’s direction. And God’s direction is always towards the well-being of the other person. Guess it’s kind of obvious. We all have relationships we don’t enjoy, though: what about when they just keep getting it wrong, and we have to get all defensive? Or when they’re SO full of gossip that’s it’s impossible not to join in (and maybe backchat about them too?) Or when you’ve both messed up, but the easiest thing to do is just pass the blame on? Hmm. When you are taking the trouble to bring about the best good for the other person, not to focus on their problems or mistakes, you’re doing it right. Joseph Phillips said, “Any idiot can point out sin. It takes "eyes that see" to see the rhythms of grace at work in a person.” What now Choose not to gossip. Instead, make a tally on your phone of how many (genuine) compliments you can give today.