TODAY'S WORD 4U 2DAY
DEFUSING CONFLICTProverbs 15:1
Syria, Afghanistan, Egypt, Iraq, Pakistan… all these countries seem to have scored poorly in the delicate art of handling conflict. But are we any better? It’s worth considering how we handle our own pressure cooker scenarios. Is it a case of pot, kettle, black?
Most of us don’t naturally choose to have enemies. The main reason people get deleted from our friend list is because of the way we deal with conflict, or handle differences of opinion. A verbal pounding might seem a fair reaction when a person is doing your head in, but it won’t do yourself or the situation any favours. Even if you think you’re in the right, hang fire and take some deep breaths.
Firstly, look at the situation through the other person’s perspective, get right into their shoes; it will show them that it’s not all about you. And secondly, think through exactly what it is you want to say. Each day throws things up that could make your blood boil, but Jesus says ‘Let me teach you … I am humble and gentle at heart’ (Matthew 11:29 NLT).
You won’t nail it in your first peace-keeping mission, but commit to keep learning when the same situations come back around. That’s your route to diffusing the bomb rather than setting it off.
Read James 3:17–18 to get a new perspective on living peacefully. Take the time to go through the seven attributes of God’s wisdom.