TODAY'S WORD 4U 2DAY
Anger (2)‘My inmost being will rejoice when your lips speak what is right’ Proverbs 23:16 NIV
When we get angry, it’s natural for us to simply react. We don’t always think about what we say or what we do, or the consequences that it will have. Sometimes we react by blaming others. This is a way for us to escape responsibility. We push the responsibility onto other people and blame them for how we feel, and how we’re acting. But this doesn’t solve anything. It just makes others angry too and then we’ve got an even worse situation. The Bible reminds us that we need to take responsibility for our own actions and responses. ‘First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye’ (Matthew 7:5 NIV). Whatever has caused our anger, our response is our responsibility. We need to be focused on changing our response rather than blaming other people and trying to change them. We can also resort to gossip or damaging someone’s reputation when we’re feeling hurt and angry. But that just widens the gap between us and the person, and makes reconciliation, forgiveness and resolution so much harder. Instead, we need to be more self-aware about our anger. We need to think about why we’re angry, why we’re responding a certain way and what we can learn from the whole experience. Anger can reveal what needs to be changed in a relationship. So let’s ask God to show us what needs changing – first in ourselves and then in the way we relate to other people. And let’s make sure that our ‘lips speak what is right’ rather than reacting with blame and gossip.
Get the notes you made yesterday. Have a think about the situation and write down any details about that time that you didn’t handle well or that you regret.