| Let's answer some communication questions: 1) What is good communication? It's honest, positively intended, two-way sharing. It isn't 'dumping' or giving someone a piece of your mind! The first law of verbal ecology is: garbage is not biodegradable! It recycles, festering with time. 'The words of a talebearer are as wounds...they go down into the innermost parts of the belly' (Proverbs 18:8). Many a word accompanies the hearer to their grave. 2) What should we communicate? The truth. 'Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who deal truthfully are His delight' (Proverbs 12:22 NKJV). But truth can be given like the blow of a sledgehammer or like a soothing hand of friendship. It should be communicated after advance thought for its impact. 'The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things' (Proverbs 15:28 NAS). 3) How much should we communicate? As much as God's Word, love and wisdom dictate. Children and distressed people frequently need only limited information. 'A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards' (Proverbs 29:11). 4) How should we communicate? 'How' can be as important as 'what,' so speak with consideration for the hearer's feelings. 'A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger' (Proverbs 15:1 NAS). The hearer's response is conditioned by your words. 5) Check your timing; it's vital! '...It is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time' (Proverbs 15:23 NLT). If you're not certain about your timing, wait and pray for wisdom! |
